There has been a death in the family.

Again guys I am back at home...been along 4 days. It's still not over but the shock is wearing off of all members of the family. There will be a gathering and burial in 7 to 14 days yet to be determined. Alexander was 6'5" tall and 325+ pounds ( sorry metric conversion you need to do) So far the coroner says an enlarged heart and possible clot, more tests are pending. My brother is doing better emotionally but his health is not good. He is 600 pounds and on oxygen all the time he is diabetic and his doctor gave him a few more months at most ... he is 51 years old. We did get into a heated discussion in regards to his health but I backed out quietly ... he knows I love him and he has said the same to me. So we wait and meet again soon. Now I just want to get on with my life and work and volunteer work.

When you read this just remember life is what we make it, it helps to have faith in something ... you guys know what I believe and when ones believes what I do it makes this time harder to take, when no one else cares about the future life after death. I pray God's mercy on all and try to be His hands and feet while I walk this planet.
 
Wayne, my condolences and best wishes to you and your family. It is hard to imagine how it is to lose someone that young and close.
I pray you find your peace an strength in our Lord. And wisdom in your contact with your brother!
 
No father should have to burry his son. My prayers to your family. As far as your brothers health, it is a shame that he is in such a shape. My father is ill too and I get on his case about being too static and not getting up and moving around. Sometimes people respond to nudging and sometimes they do not. About all you can do is try and reinforce positive thinking a little at a time and hope he understands that you care about him and are not just riding his ass. Hope everything works out for him.
 
eniced73 said:
No father should have to burry his son. My prayers to your family. As far as your brothers health, it is a shame that he is in such a shape. My father is ill too and I get on his case about being too static and not getting up and moving around. Sometimes people respond to nudging and sometimes they do not. About all you can do is try and reinforce positive thinking a little at a time and hope he understands that you care about him and are not just riding his ass. Hope everything works out for him.
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Thank you, what I am trying to wrap my head around is the lack of self preservation. Even a guy going to get his head sawn off fights for his life. How can one just sit there and do nothing...kind of reminds me I guess of the Jews getting on trains to their death. There has to be a point that one just gives up?
 
2054172 said:
Thank you, what I am trying to wrap my head around is the lack of self preservation. Even a guy going to get his head sawn off fights for his life. How can one just sit there and do nothing...kind of reminds me I guess of the Jews getting on trains to their death. There has to be a point that one just gives up?
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You are right that people fight up to a point and then do give up. Our duty as family, friends, and parents are to help these people out as much as possible. No matter what happens you will always question yourself about if you could have done more. Do not let that get to you. I had two friends go from good people to addicted to Heroin and strung out on the streets. I sat them down and grilled them, I gave them tons of cash, I even gave them places to stay at the expense of my own family questioning what the hell I was doing. Sometimes people can be helped sometimes they cannot no matter what you do or sacrifice. Give support as much as you can and let the rest up to them. Everyone has their own problems let alone deal with someone else's.
My friends are still strung out as far as I know. I have not heard from them in a year and half. I did everything that a friend could and have no feelings toward them wrecking their lives. No one forced them to drugs. I wished their lives turned out different but they did not.

I am far from the right guy to give advice to you on your bro' but I would just repeat to let him know you are there for him and that if he wants to live he needs to choose to live. No one is going to do that for him. Give support and pray for the best. Good luck,
 
All the best for today mate .. not much we can say to make anything better but hang in there big guy...

John
 
This will now be over soon...the body will be laid to rest on Monday. I will have to see how things develop with my brother in a few weeks.
 
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family my friend...
 
2054172 said:
Gentlemen I regret to say that my 21 year old nephew pasted away yesterday. I am out of town and contact for a few days. Please no card for me or gifts. Save that for another time.

But I would solicit your prays and thoughts, so I may be a help and be a comfort to my brother who feels that his heart has been ripped out. I can only imagine the pain, and pray the Lord takes me before one of my sons. Pray for wisdom on my part to say what is right and to keep my mouth shut when needed and just be there in person as support. All is going well since I got here a 3.5 hour drive turned into a 5.5 hour drive through a snow storm.

Thanks guys
wayne
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Tað ger mær ilt. Tut mir leit. My condolences.
 
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